Poor Self-Esteem vs. Healthy Self-Esteem
People with poor self-esteem often rely on how they are doing in the present to determine how they feel about themselves. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. Even then, the good feeling (from a good grade, etc.) can be temporary.
Healthy self-esteem is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately (know ourselves) and still be able to accept and to value ourselves unconditionally. This means being able to realistically acknowledge our strengths and limitations (which is part of being human) and at the same time accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.
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One of the problems that I have sometimes it's having low self-esteem. Sometimes I look at the accomplishments of other people around me and get depressed and lower the value of the task on hand or even sometimes completely disqualify it, and in doing so I feeling even more depressed about myself. This is certainly a symptom of low self-esteem.
The first step was to identify it, the next step is to manage it. I think bit by bit I can counter this problem.
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"If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle." - Sun Tzu
Positive reinforcement from your friends goes a long way too. So not that I need to remind you, but you obviously rock Kev... and you know I only say that about the trop people :D
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